> who says I am here to build a rom collection.
> I am here build a games cabinet.
> and if you can't be civil it's poor world we live in.
I would expect that at 45 you would have already figured the truth about our ugly society, but anyway...
there are many tutorials if you search in Google. Grog already pointed you to BYOAC, that probably is the best place to start, they have a great forum.
BYOAC= Build Your Own Arcade Controls
Who knows, maybe you find someone to nurse you.