I ALMOST said don't ask her out, you're not ready... but I went with ask her out on Sunday after all.
But here's my take...
I would guess part of the reason you are consternating over this decision is because, in your mind, you already imagine your chances are slim at success with her (otherwise uyou'd march on over and say "lets do this"), yet you feel like you have limited opportunity to meet women like her, and don't want to miss out on the opportunity should fate have allowed you success in this case. It would appear you feel like you have a lot of eggs in this one basket.
Which is why I ALMOST said you're not ready.
If you ask her out under that pressure of time and sense of limited opportunity, she will sense how much desparation is invested in that question, and THAT is your obstacle to success. It would have almost nothing to do with your appearance, and your personality... with women its all about attitude.
Women can smell that insecurity a mile away.
I'd say you are ready when you feel like she is but one egg in the basket, and make or break is of little consequence to you, and so when you ask, it won't come with that sense of desparation, which will make you seem more interesting to her.
While from a comedy movie, Mike Damone's stellar five point plan for asking girls out is right on the money.
ATTITUDE
"The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays. I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you have the attitude."
Damone Gives Out Dating Advice by RetroCafe
So... yes... you CAN ask her out on Sunday if you can shed all that insecurity and desperation, and just knock out the ask-out question like it would be something casually enjoyable for her... because you have no stake in the game, and it's her gain. Attitude. And a coke with no ice.
EDIT: And P.S. Don't call her... she didn't give you her number. That would be a major shot from left field for her.
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