> I would guess part of the reason you are consternating over this decision is because,
> in your mind, you already imagine your chances are slim at success with her
> (otherwise uyou'd march on over and say "lets do this"), yet you feel like you have
> limited opportunity to meet women like her, and don't want to miss out on the
> opportunity should fate have allowed you success in this case. It would appear you
> feel like you have a lot of eggs in this one basket.
>
> Which is why I ALMOST said you're not ready.
>
> If you ask her out under that pressure of time and sense of limited opportunity, she
> will sense how much desparation is invested in that question, and THAT is your
> obstacle to success. It would have almost nothing to do with your appearance, and
> your personality... with women its all about attitude.
>
> Women can smell that insecurity a mile away.
>
> I'd say you are ready when you feel like she is but one egg in the basket, and make
> or break is of little consequence to you, and so when you ask, it won't come with
> that sense of desparation, which will make you seem more interesting to her.
>
> While from a comedy movie, Mike Damone's stellar five point plan for asking girls out
> is right on the money.
>
> ATTITUDE
> "The attitude dictates that you don't care whether she comes, stays, lays, or prays.
> I mean whatever happens, your toes are still tappin'. Now when you got that, then you
> have the attitude."
>
>
> Damone Gives Out Dating Advice by RetroCafe
>
>
> So... yes... you CAN ask her out on Sunday if you can shed all that insecurity and
> desperation, and just knock out the ask-out question like it would be something
> casually enjoyable for her... because you have no stake in the game, and it's her
> gain. Attitude. And a coke with no ice.
Confidence. As someone who can be extremely prideful and arrogant, you'd think I'd have more confidence.
It's weird; she's been in the choir for at least 2 years, but I never really thought about asking her out until this year.
I've probably jinxed myself by thinking about it too much. I guess I'll find out tomorrow (fingers crossed) 
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